A lot has been said and done about this but many people still haven’t got enough of this subject. I honestly don’t know where it all started but I can definitely tell you the huge success of the movies, t.v. dramas and even books regarding the “mistresses” is very alarming. And please..please..puh-leeze! Don’t tell me the “there is still a moral lesson of the story”, because I would definitely debunk those so-called lesson in life!
BUt before we move along in demystifying those ‘lessons’ and ‘reasons’, first let’s take a look at a very familiar and common story of a “mistress”.
*insert snide comment in here*: If you are the type of woman whose conscience can take it to be a mistress, just for the sake of money, then please move on to the next topic or better yet to another blog.
But if like me, you cannot and will never alow to themselves to become the third-party in a relationship, then please read along.
ELENA: THE USUAL MISTRESS
Elena was just an average looking girl when she was still in highschool. She was the eldest among the 4 siblings and was destined to be the breadwinner of their family. She never got to college because of financial issues, but since Elena is WISE and PRACTICAL(take note: I said wise and practical and not INTELLIGENT), she used her beautiful body and oozing self-confidence to attract men. Until the day came when she catched a BIG FISH! She underwent nose-lift, made her self like a very beautiful doll in the eyes of her friends and everybody who would see her. She went to travel a lot of places–locally and internationally and she would always post on her social media accounts all the places she went, the very sumptuous and expensive food she is eating and even the luxurious gifts her “boyfriend” gave her. The mystery there is, Elena never had one single picture with her extravagant and loving boyfriend; if she have though, his face is pixellated or covered with an emoticon.
Now, can you see where the problem takes place?
Elena, though maybe happy with the luxurious gifts and trips, is emotionally deteriorating. She maybe showered with material things by her boyfriend but she never have his SOLE ATTENTION and COMMITMENT. Also, he can never give her security and most especially peace of mind.
Elena is the type of mistress who would never have EMOTIONAL FULFILLMENT. And please don’t tell me “Oh, that’s okay, maybe she doesn’t love the guy anyway so she isn’t hurt every time he goes back to his life”! Come on gals! Didn’t you know that there is no such thing as a PLEASURE-SEX for women who have been with a man for 6 months onwards? Yes..that’s is true! Always remember this: EVERYTIME A WOMAN HAVE SEX WITH A MAN, SHE IS GIVING A PIECE OF HERSELF THAT SHE CAN NEVER EVER GET BACK!
Consider this scenario: A man is eating a lollipop, he peels off its cover(yep! that’s your clothes girls), and licks the candy(that’s your body!). Every lick and taste he gives the candy makes the latter thinner and thinner to its handle ’til nothing is left. Girls are just like that! Everytime a man gets on your undies, they gets something from you which (physically and emotionally) which you can never ever get back.You are like a lollipop!
Now, consider this line, “A mistress can only be called a mistress when there’s an emotional attachment.”
Yeah..you are correct in thinking that that is Ms. Anne Curtis’ line from the movie No Other Woman. Did you notice that at first she was just playing and having fun with the wonderful sex they’re having? But at he middle of the story she became gaga over Derrick Ramsey’s character because she have come to know him in a deeper manner, and of course don’t forget the wild and ravenous sex..Ha-Ha!
But if you can also remember that despite of all the guy’s concern for her, he even took care of her, plus all the sweet, mushy stuffs he did for her; he still left her for his wife! And that’s because according to him, HE LOVES HIS WIFE! Huh! What a wonderful way of showing how he loves his wife right?!
Maybe you might be asking..”Okay.. so where is this leading to?”
Okay..don’t kill the mood, bear with me girls..
Men’s nature was always to be “PAASA” and “HOPIA”(giving false hope). Whether intentional or not, they have the tendency to be sweet, caring and everything to a woman but only sees her as a FRIEND–a f******* FRIEND! That’s how the term FRIENDZONED became popular and became part of our lives okay? And trust me girls, this have been proven and tested!
So now, going back to Elena’s story, despite all the material gain from his boyfriend, she would always have this fear that one day he is going to leave her and either go back to his wife or find another more beautiful and fresh mistress. And our pitiful Elena is left alone–unhappy and broken. It would be up to her if she decided to move on, find the RIGHT MAN for her or again and again look for an already committed man ’til nothing is left of herself.
Consequently, the bigger problem any mistress would face is the struggle with themselves–guilt and conscience, that is. What if that married or committed man has kids? She didn’t only took away a HUSBAND but also a FATHER! Instead of sending his kids to prestigious schools, he sent them to the low-class ones since all, if not, most of his money were already given to her whims and caprices?
And fast forward to after 10, 20 and even 30 years from now? When you are already at old age, alone in the patio of your beautiful house, having coffee; everything would surely dawn on you. Regrets, eternal consequences; those are just some of the things you would have to battle on your own. (Since I presume that this time, YOUR MAN is already at his wife’s arms).
This is something that any woman should always think about before entering and engaging in such kind of relationship.
PHILIPPINES DETERIORATING MORALITY: PROMOTING INFIDELITY
I don’t want this to sound so cliché but this is really the sad REALITY. Mass and Social Media have a great influence and impact to the kind of lives we are living right now. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have anything against those two since I, myself had been very active on my social media accounts and is very fond of watching t.v and movies.
But let’s be blatant here, NO OTHER WOMAN, ANG DALAWANG MRS. REAL, THE LEGAL WIFE, MISTRESS, MY NEIGHBOR’S WIFE, and most recently is ETIQUETTE FOR MISTRESS have been blockbusters and captivated the hearts of millions of Filipinos all over the world and what is the theme of the said dramas and movies? INFIDILITY, ADULTERY, EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS, and UNFAITHFULNESS!
And oh please don’t tell me that those mentioned above also taught the ‘legal wives’ how to fight for their rights and what is legally theirs! Still, the general theme was..tadan..! I-N-F-I-D-E-L-I-T-Y!
I was very disappointed with the movie ETIQUETTE, though I know that we should still know the two sides of the coin, still it wanted us to have a liberal mind and accept the different facets of being a mistress. It’s like they want to justify the actions of the mistresses; why they have to do it, why they do it, and the things that they have to sacrifice too so they’d be happy or help their families.
WTH? It was a choice they made when they dated an obvious married man and no one ever forced them to be in that kind of situation. What happened to the adage that says, “hard work is the key to success!”? Ahm..well..yeah..they are really HARDWORKING, in bed, I guess?
Don’t dare tell me the reason “you-will-never-understand-what-I-am-going-through-since-you-never-experienced-hardships-in-life” or “you-must-have-a-wonderful-childhood” because I will just roll my eyes at you. Life really isn’t easy. Each one of us has our own and personal cross that we carry everyday but having a relationship with a married and committed man is still a NO-NO! There are a lot of things that you can do to make yourself become a better person not just physically but also emotionally and financially. Don’t depend on some old, rich man’s money to help you achieve your dreams for you and your family. Making your family as an excuse is very LOUSY and a lazy one too!
STAND UP AND WORK YOUR ASS UP AND STOP COMPLAINING HOW HARD IT IS TO ACHIEVE YOU DREAMS AND ACQUIRE THE THINGS YOU WANT AND NEED IN LIFE! STOP DREAMING AND ACT ON IT!
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