(SOME OF THE THINGS PEOPLE TEND TO BELIEVE ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE)
Let’s try to name and debunk the famous legend and mythos about the infamous LOVE.
1. HE COMPLETES ME.
You don’t need anyone to complete you or make you feel complete.
Don’t believe in “someone-will-come-to-complete-the-puzzle-piece-of-your-life” BS because that is one of the greatest lie the world has made us believe.
As what Hammond said, “True love is when the love in your heart is over pouring, that you want to share it with others.” Of course it would be on another leave as the love you share with your friends and family. It entails COMMITMENT, and INTIMACY. And when I say INTIMACY, it doesn’t just necessarily means PHYSICAL but EMOTIONAL and SPIRITUAL as well. Basically, Hammond is trying to tell us that for us to give love to someone, we must be filled with love first. Remember the adage that says, “YOU CANNOT GIVE SOMETHING YOU DO NOT HAVE”? That is what she is trying to tell us.
Women are too drawn with what the best-selling books and blockbuster movies are telling and showing us that we forgot to realize that WE ARE ALREADY AWARE OF THE TRUTH. We just decided to believe, consciously or maybe unconsciously, the LIES our society has been feeding us.
My dear beautiful woman, you don’t need anyone to complete you. Even before “THE ONE” came knocking at your doorstep, you should have been complete already—should have been a WHOLE BEING.
You’ve had how many years to fulfil all your dreams, making them to reality; get to know yourself and make yourself WHOLE, so you cannot make that as an EXCUSE of hqving any void in your life.
If all your life you feel empty and had been waiting for someone to fill that emptiness, you will never get it even if a lot of “Princes” walk past your way. The one person you have been waiting WILL NEVER COMPLETE YOU, he will COMPLEMENT YOU.(Hammond)
2. IF I HAVE SEX WITH HIM, HE WILL LOVE ME.
This is one of the most utterly disgusting lie I have ever heard!
Sex will never, ever make a man stay in your life. It’s what our society tells us but sex will never cement any relationship.
If the foundation of a relationship is sex, even just a twinge of struggles and trials, it will definitely crumble.
You may make him stay for 5, 10 years because you are sexually compatible but that would eventually wear off.
I’ve read somewhere that ‘ THE WORLD CALLS IT AS MAKING LOVE” but the truth is, IF THE LOVE ISN’T THERE WHEN YOU’RE CLOTHES ARE ON, YOU CERTAINLY CAN’T CREATE IT EVEN THOUGH YOU THROW IT OUT THE WINDOW.
3. IT WAS LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT!
This is certainly one of the oldest myths I’ve ever heard, read and even watch on dramas and movies.
Remember that love is something that BINDS AND CONNECTS PEOPLE EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY and even SPIRITUALLY.
How can you do that the moment you just set your eyes on that person?
You may be attracted to him but that will never be counted as love—lust or attraction may be.
Love is such a strong, powerful word to use when you are attracted to someone. You will be needing to spend time with him, get to know him to consider it as love but please..please.. PUH-LEEZE! Don’t discount love as lust or even attraction as it is already the most abused word in the planet.
4. JEALOUSY AS A SIGN OF LOVE.
Oh come on! When you get jealous, it shows how LITTLE YOUR TRUST to your partner is! If you really love someone, you just don’t give him or her love but also UNDERSTANDING, PATIENCE and most of all TRUST.
Always remember that YOU CANNOT TRUST SOMEONE YOU DON’T LOVE (or even LIKE) but YOU CAN ALWAYS LOVE SOMEONE YOU TRUST.
TRUST is a sign, a symbol of how you love that person. Don’t sugarcoat possessiveness as love since that is two completely different and opposing things.
It may be okay to feel just a twinge of jealousy from time to time but make sure that you are not being overly IRRATIONAL.
TRUST is one of the main foundations of love so if you really love him or her, give him even the benefit of the doubt.
5.EVERY MAN HAS TO EXPERIENCE THE “CHEATING STAGE”
A lot of women nowadays believed this lie. Take note I said LIE or MYTH, URBAN LEGEND or whatever synonymous word I can use.
What kind of reasoning is that? Come on, If you really love a person, there is no reason for you to jump from one bed to another!
Our society has taught us, moulded our minds that men are polygamous by nature and that they should experience screwing around. But the TRUTH is, if HE CAN’T KEEP HIS DICK UNDER HIS PANTS WHEN HE IS STILL YOUR BOYFRIEND, I bet he can’t definitely and most certainly do that WHEN THE TWO OF YOU ARE MARRIED.
When he ‘plays around’ that shows how LITTLE HIS RESPECT for you not just as his girlfriend but also as a WOMAN.